The Relational Wellness Assessment is a tool that investigates interpersonal and intimate relationships over the past 4 weeks. While the assessment is not all-inclusive nor is it diagnostic, it is a tool that can be used to identify specific areas of concern to focus on improving. Taking the assessment routinely can help you see progress or areas of concern throughout your journey.
We encourage you to discuss the results of the assessment with your Wellness Pro. It is broken into different sections with score ranges in each section. The following represents a brief description of score breakdowns in each section:
Interpersonal relationships are connections and interactions between two or more people that are socially and emotionally significant. They are based on mutual respect, trust, and concern for the other person’s well-being and happiness. Interpersonal relationships can be observed in a person’s dealings with friends, family, romantic partners, colleagues, and others.
Some symptoms of having poor interpersonal relationships are:
– Feeling unliked or unlucky²
– Struggling to form and maintain healthy and fulfilled relationships²³
– Having frequent problems or conflicts at work, with friends, or with family¹²
– Lacking honesty, transparency, respect, or trust in important relationships¹²
– Criticizing, making fun of, or being sarcastic towards others²
– Having poor listening skills or not understanding body language²
– Being unable to use emotional intelligence or manage emotions²
If you experience any of these symptoms, you may benefit from seeking professional help or improving your interpersonal skills. Interpersonal skills include effective communication, problem-solving, assertiveness, empathy, and teamwork². These skills can help you build and maintain positive relationships with others.
The questions about interpersonal relationships relate to our ability to communicate and form relationships with others. These relationships are specific to friendships and social connections with other people and our ability to form the types of social relationships that can bring us fulfillment. The questions can be completed every 4 weeks to help you set goals and track progress in building social connections with others.
13-25: Moderate to severe difficulty in interpersonal relationships.
26-38: Moderate difficulty in interpersonal relationships.
39-51: Mild difficulty in interpersonal relationship.
51-65: Strong ability in interpersonal relationships.
(1) Signs of Poor Interpersonal Skills | Interpersonal Relationship. https://baysidewellness.com.au/conditions-treated/interpersonal-relationships/.
(2) Interpersonal difficulties | Nightingale Hospital London. https://www.nightingalehospital.co.uk/interpersonal-difficulties/.
(3) Signs That You’re In an Unhealthy Relationship – Verywell Mind. https://www.verywellmind.com/signs-that-youre-in-an-unhealthy-relationship-5218237.
Intimate relationships are interpersonal relationships that involve emotional or physical closeness between people and may include sexual intimacy and feelings of romance or love¹. Intimate relationships are based on mutual respect, trust, and concern for the other person’s well-being and happiness. Intimate relationships can be observed in a person’s dealings with friends, family, romantic partners, colleagues, and others.
Intimacy is the feeling of being in close, personal association with another person². It is an essential part of intimate relationships, but it also plays an important role in other relationships with friends, family members, and other acquaintances. Intimacy allows people to bond with each other on many levels, such as emotional, physical, intellectual, spiritual, and experiential³.
Some tips to build a healthy intimate relationship are:
– Being vulnerable: Vulnerability means openly expressing your feelings, thoughts, fears, and past hurts with your partner³.
– Expressing appreciation: For emotional and physical intimacy to flourish, both partners may need to openly express their gratitude and admiration for each other³.
– Noticing the small things: Paying attention to the details of your partner’s life, such as their preferences, hobbies, goals, and challenges, can show that you care and are interested in them³.
– Communicating effectively: Effective communication involves listening actively, speaking respectfully, and resolving conflicts constructively³.
– Sharing activities: Doing things together, such as hobbies, sports, travel, or entertainment, can create shared memories and experiences that enhance intimacy³.
– Showing affection: Affection can be shown through physical touch, such as holding hands, hugging, kissing, and sex, or through verbal or nonverbal gestures, such as compliments, gifts, or eye contact³.
– Supporting each other: Support can be emotional, such as offering comfort, empathy, or encouragement, or practical, such as helping with tasks, chores, or problems³.
– Respecting boundaries: Boundaries are the limits and expectations that each person has in a relationship, such as personal space, privacy, time, and autonomy³. Respecting boundaries means honoring and accepting the other person’s needs and wants, and not violating or manipulating them³.
The romantic relationship questions are specific to your relationship with a spouse or romantic partner regarding different aspects of the relationship such as trust, time together, individuality, and sex over the past 4 weeks.
These questions are generally applicable to monogamous relationships but may have application in other relationships. You may reflect on the scores of the assessment and make goals to improve in these areas. You can record these goals in the Overt app and talk with your partner and Wellness Pro about steps to help improve the relationship. The following guide may help you understand your individual score:
24-47: Needs improvement. Do not despair; your romantic relationship may need work like many relationships. While you may feel frustrated that your relationship is having issues, you are recognizing areas for improvement and able to make goals for improvement.
48-71: Moderate difficulties in the romantic relationship. The relationship does need some work but there is hope in making changes. Perhaps some areas of the relationship are more positive, such as hobbies, while others may need work such as intimacy. You can make goals to work on your individual part in the relationship and set them together with your partner.
72-95: Mild stress in the relationship. You have a positive relationship with your partner but may want to work on a few things that need improvement.
96-120: Strong ability to connect in romantic relationships. While you may want to work on a few areas of the relationship, you are able to work through conflict and connect in a positive, intimate way as a couple.
(1) Intimate relationship – Wikipedia. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intimate_relationship.
(2) What Is Intimacy in a Relationship? – Verywell Mind. https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-intimacy-in-a-relationship-5199766.
(3) What Does It Mean to Have an Intimate Relationship? – Psych Central. https://psychcentral.com/relationships/intimate-relationship-tips.
(4) Intimate relationship – Wikipedia. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intimate_relationship.
(5) What Is Intimacy in a Relationship? – Verywell Mind. https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-intimacy-in-a-relationship-5199766.
(6) What Does It Mean to Have an Intimate Relationship? – Psych Central. https://psychcentral.com/relationships/intimate-relationship-tips.
(7) Getty Images. https://www.gettyimages.com/detail/news-photo/rome-italy-a-real-international-community-is-set-up-during-news-photo/515547276.
